In our modern days and a culture obsessed with high achievements, we tend to focus on the next goal and then, next, and then, next. And, in this endless pursuit for the next thing, we forget to play and have fun.
According to the dictionary, “playfulness is the quality of being light-hearted or full of fun.” And more than that, playfulness is also a fundamental aspect of our wellbeing:
- It can foster better mental and physical health
- It enhances creativity and problem-solving
- And very importantly, playfulness promotes more positive relationships.
When you think about playful people in your childhood, how do you feel about them? What kind of memories does it bring? What emotions?
If you have children, do you take the time to be playful with them? Are you playful with your partner?
Have you noticed how your connection can feel different when you play and have fun with them more often?
When I worked as a child therapist, parents would bring children with various behavioral problems. Among other recommendations, I often “prescribed” for parents to connect with their children through play. And, often, those parents who gave it a try would acknowledge improvement in their child’s behaviors much sooner than the others. Marriage therapists also recommend dates and fun times to foster the couple’s reconnection.
Nurturing a sense of connection is one of the most healing and connecting aspects! It works in relationships with children and adults.
When we are playful and having fun, we are probably in the most relaxed state. Our nervous system is relaxed, we feel safe, and we can enjoy the moment. If we share this state of safety and lightness with someone we love, we feel closer to them. We enhance a sense of belonging and wellbeing.
Playfulness is not a luxury; it is a necessity!
So, allow yourself time to relax and play more!
And, if you have challenges with relaxing and being playful, you are not alone. Many people are caught up in mental and behavioral patterns that prevent them from enjoying life in certain ways. However, those patterns are changeable!
Learning to be more relaxed and playful can be one of many aspects that I can work with my clients while they pursue their goals. Because, more than supporting clients in achieving goals, I help them recalibrate their approach to life. So, they can feel accomplished and experience more lightness, love and better relationships in their journey.
